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Joel Thurman Hayes Jr

Joel Thurman Hayes Jr was born April 16th, 1984 and passed away in Durham, North Carolina at the age of 36 in May of 2020. A private memorial service will be held at a later date.

He is survived by his father Joey Hayes of Sanford, his mother and step-dad, Karol & Rick Walker of Cary, along with his siblings; Rachael Hayes of Fuquay-Varina, Meghan Beal of Wilmington, Cameron Hayes of Garner and Cooper Broome of Moncure, along with their spouses (Kevin, Adam, Elaine, and Wayne). He has 3 nephews (Jackson, Dawson, and Henry) and also 4 nieces (Reagan, Sophie, Landry, and Journey). Joel is also survived by several aunts and uncles along with 16 cousins.

Joel was raised in Sanford and everyone who knew him, always recognized him because of his electric blue eyes. Though Joel struggled for the majority of his life with addiction, people knew that he was a gentle and kind person. While in school, Joel was the type of student everyone despised. He could sleep in class or not even go and still make grades to get him into a great college. Johnson & Wales was known for its culinary arts program and Joel was accepted into the program where he attended for a year. Joel loved the beach, he loved to be tan and when he was doing well, he obsessed about clean tennis shoes & making sure he had super white teeth. Joel was also a part of the Port City Community church family while in Wilmington and through it all, he kept his faith in God who he knew could restore, heal and help him through it all.

Psalms 46:10,” Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.” We love you Joel and you will truly be missed!


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A candle was lit in memory of Joel Hayes Jr

Hailey Henson Sep 24 2021 9:43 AM

Im so sorry to hear about Joel, I was his bus driver when he went to East Lee. He must have loved to ride that bus cause when it came time for him to get off, he would just stand at the steps... wouldnt move Until Id take my foot and nudge him (shoved) he was very outgoing, always treated me with the upmost respect. God has him now and hes cured of all his problems. Prayers for the family

Ms Fitzpatrick Jun 4 2020 12:00 AM

Condolences from Jack and Betty Oldham(Oak Island)

Jack Oldham Jun 4 2020 12:00 AM

A candle was lit in memory of Joel Hayes Jr

Andy & Dorline (Rose) Nelson - Edgewater, Florida Jun 3 2020 12:00 AM

A candle was lit in memory of Joel Hayes Jr

Darlene Foster Jun 2 2020 12:00 AM

Ive known Joel since middle school. In high school we were in Culinary Arts class together for two years and we both had plans to go to culinary school once we graduated. Ill never forget how sweet Joel was to everyone...he was such a good person and he will truly be missed. Sending lots of love and prayers to his family and loved ones

Rest In Peace Joel

Anastasia Waddell Jun 2 2020 12:00 AM

A candle was lit in memory of Joel Hayes Jr

Sandra H Kelly Jun 1 2020 12:00 AM