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Buffalo Cemetery
Monday May 10th, 2021

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St Luke United Methodist Church
Monday May 10th, 2021
12:30pm - 2:00pm

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St Luke United Methodist Church
Monday May 10th, 2021

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Mary Caines

Mary Ellen “Dicki” Bass Caines, 83, went to be with the Lord on May 4, 2021. Funeral services will be held on Monday May 10, 2021 at St. Luke United Methodist Church at 2:30pm with burial to follow at Buffalo Cemetery. Family will receive friends from 12:30-2pm in the parlor at St. Luke United Methodist Church. Born in Fayetteville, NC on March 30, 1938, she was the daughter of the late Ertha Anderson Bass and Euna Earle Upchurch Williams. She was the step-daughter of the late Sherwood Williams.  Dicki was a 1956 graduate of Dunn High School in Dunn, NC.  Then, she started a life filled with travel, work, and lots of love. In the early years, she worked in the administration office at East Carolina University and as a bank teller in Carolina Beach and Raleigh. While dancing one night at Williams Lake, NC, she met the late Gene Austin Caines. They were married on a snowy January 29th in 1961 and remained together until Gene’s untimely death May 4, 1990. Their married years took them to Colorado Springs, CO, Fayetteville, NC, Salisbury, NC, Richmond, VA, Columbia, SC, and finally Sanford, NC. They welcomed their son Gregory Austin Caines in 1967 and daughter Megan Dee-El Caines in 1971.  In Sanford, Dicki worked at Carolina Sporting Goods and at various beauty salons as a receptionist. In 1983, she became a certified color analyst and started her business “ColorMagic.” In the mid-’90s, she moved to Cherry Grove, SC. Her love of people, her bright smile, and her flair for fashion were best witnessed through her years as a hostess around North Myrtle Beach, SC at Chase’s Place, Duffy Street, The Surf Golf and Beach Club, and Bonefish Grill. She is survived by her son Greg (Janice) of Lexington, SC and daughter Dee-El of Sanford, NC; the favorite grandson Hunter Cloninger and the blessing of beautiful granddaughters Mary Chapman Caines; Adair, Grace and Anna Claire Day; sister Linda Williams McPhail (Gus) of Hope Mills, NC; sisters in law Nelda Caines Lane (Carmen) of Candor and Velda Caines Ledbetter of Myrtle Beach, SC; and many special nieces and nephews. She will be missed by many that have called her Mrs. Dicki and Gigi over the years. Dicki was inducted into the Shagger’s Hall of Fame in February of 2016, was a member of the Wolfpack Club for over 45 years, and served on the board of Tilghman Lakes By the Sea. She taught Sunday School and was a member of First Baptist Church in Sanford. She later moved her membership to St. Luke UMC in Sanford. Over the years, she played a lot of bridge and tennis with friends; planted, grew and enjoyed her flowers; cheered for N.C. State Wolfpack; walked on the beach and found sharks teeth with her grandchildren; sat on the porch reading books; traveled to many amazing places and picked up seashells by the seashore.  “It is a good thing to give thanks.” Psalm 92:1  Lord, we thank you for all the wonderful moments and memories shared with our mom, sister, Gigi, friend, and Aunt. -Amen  The family would like to thank the staff of Liberty Commons for their support and care during mom’s time there and especially in her final days. Alzheimer’s Assn, A Ride to Remember, 4124 Clemson Blvd, Suite L, Anderson, SC 29621; or to St Luke United Methodist Church, The ARK Ministry at 2916 Wicker St, Sanford, NC 27330.

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I got to know Dicki by her coming into the Post Office and picking up her mail while she was at the beach. Dicki was definitely one of a kind. She was a classy woman for sure. She had such a giving heart ........... and will be missed by so many! Dee El and Greg Im so sorry for your loss

Karen Brown May 13 2021 12:00 AM

My thoughts and prayers to this beautiful lady. Always smiling and saw the best in everyone. RIP precious one.

Rachel Lewis May 11 2021 12:00 AM

Dee-el. So sorry to hear of your mother's death. Know that I'm thinking of you at this sad time.Take care.

Julianne McCracken May 9 2021 12:00 AM

Greg and Dee-El~So very sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. I've known her, since my early days of moving to Sanford, in 1976. She was a beautiful lady both inside and out. Although I've not seen her in awhile she's been in my thoughts. Thoughts and prayers to you both, in the times ahead, and keep all those wonderful memories close. Sincerely, Nancy Jasany

Nancy Jasany May 8 2021 12:00 AM

Ms. Dicki would come into Brenda's Jewelers when I worked there. I loved cleaning her beautiful jewelry and hearing her stories about when and how she attained each piece of jewelry. She treasured each piece with love. She would radiate the room with energy. Dee El, I am praying for you and your family. I know she will greatly be missed.

Jessica Phillips May 8 2021 12:00 AM

Dear Dee El, Greg and family, I am thinking about you and praying that the Lord will give you peace and comfort during the loss of your sweet mom! I know Dicki has had that wonderful reunion with her beloved Gene. She will surely be missed by her many friends! Love to you both!

Linda Keller Kelly May 8 2021 12:00 AM

Mrs. Dicki, I know youre sitting on that Beach right now. With all the seagulls and seashells! You are greatly missed. Even though our time together was such a short period, but every moment were times Ill always remember. I love you!Dee-El and Family,You all have my deepest condolences. May God grant you all peace through this time.Do know that while Dicki was here with me i cared for her as she was my mom. Im sure you know and felt that!Love you!Courtney G!

Courtney Griffin-Frye May 7 2021 12:00 AM

Dee El. Tender mercies and prayers for you at this time and through the journey. So glad my uncle and aunt were able to meet and share time with your mother also at MB. She had a daughter to be proud of... prayers lifted for the entire family.

David and Renee Dusenbury May 6 2021 12:00 AM

This is a picture being use is one I took March 22, 2016 a birthday lunch. So glad I had the pleasure of knowing you. Forever missed. What fun times we had. Love you.

Laura Ingram-Smith May 6 2021 12:00 AM

Oh Ms.Dicki, How you will be missed.All the laughs and smiles along the way.Rest well until we meet again.My prayers to the entire family She was one of a kind !!!

Kimberly Stone May 5 2021 12:00 AM

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